Hey everyone. So yes, even though Robert agreed to answer questions with me, and this plan to do this on my blog did happen quite recently… we actually ended up dissolving our queerplatonic partnership this past Thursday.
We’re still friends and I hope he will still be willing to answer questions with me for the blog, though. If not, I’ll still answer all of them.
I’ll stop taking questions around Monday, July 4th. Please get your questions in by then! I’ve only received 2 questions so far. Thank you to the tumblr Shades of Grayro for this post: http://shades-of-grayro.tumblr.com/post/146106897800/ever-had-a-question-for-a-queerplatonic-pair which eventually prompted both questions. 😉
The questions I’ve been asked:
1. I am a cis male in my early 30‘s who identifies as straight, demiromantic and quoiromantic. Since I am quoiromantic, I am confused about what is romantic and what is platonic. In dating, you hear a lot of words like “spark”, “completing each other,” and “opposites attract” whereas words like, “comfortable around them,” “common interests,” and “easy to talk to” can apply to either romantic or platonic relationships. My observation is that maybe you need that “spark” to jump from a friendship to romantic relationship. In queerplatonic relationships, would you *need* some sort of spark or is that exclusively for a romantic relationship?
2. “I think my question would be about how it started; what was that conversation like and how did you bring it up? Granted, the fact that you are both ace and probably knew what a QPP was already probably helped but I am still curious how one moves from ‘really good friends bordering on something else’ to actually having the conversation. “
Remember anonymously sending me an ask on my tumblr (luvtheheaven) with your question, or sending me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org is totally fine. Your name doesn’t have to be publicly associated with your question anywhere.
I’d be happy to talk about my friendship with Robert before the queerplatonic partnership, about the queerplatonic relationship, about the break up, or even about our friendship since then. We’re actually going to spend Independence Day weekend together with a couple of other friends of ours, as well, so answering questions AFTER July 4th should be pretty good timing.
I just wanted to update all of you.