I think so much of this needs to be said, and in a way this post by Ace in Lace works well as a follow up to my own post for this carnival: https://luvtheheaven.wordpress.com/2014/08/13/your-asexuality-has-been-made-unassailable-for-you/
I think it works well in correlation with my own post, because of the “So what?” section. I recommend that everyone read the whole thing, because while I stand by my original post, I also agree with everything here. I think they complement each other in some ways, rather than contradict. 😀
The August 2014 Carnival of Aces is on The Unassailable Asexual. The Pure Asexual. The Gold-Star Asexual. True Asexuals. Real Asexuals.
These are all terms to describe the kinds of asexuals that meet whatever qualifiers someone has set for what makes up an asexual.
There is an agreement on what makes someone an asexual that is widely agreed on. “Does not experience sexual attraction”. Few people dispute that definition. The problem is that there are so many people out there that have decided there are other qualifiers to being considered a “real” asexual. Not only must you not experience sexual attraction, you must also not masturbate. Or have sex with your partner for any reason. Or you must never have been raped or traumatized. Or you must not be physically impaired or its probably the physical impairment that’s causing the asexuality, you’re not a real asexual in those people’s eyes.
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